I believe Mr. Pancakes and i had our first marital conversation that i would like to refer to as Grown-Up! We have been doing really well with discussing how we want our lives to go (as much control as we have over this seeing that i do believe God is in control of the direction of our lives always).
We had discussed how we wanted to first two years of our lives to go including getting married, becoming debt-free, saving our emergency fund, moving and then starting the business. Initially after we saved up for our wedding fund, we would work on getting completely out of debt before purchasing a house and or starting our family business! As can be seen on the right hand of my blog!
Therefore, imagine my surprise when Mr. Pancakes informed me he had found a building for our business a few days ago! WHAT?! Of course my first reaction probably wasn’t as supportive as he would have liked. Immediately i wanted to know how he was going to afford to rent a building for a business??!!! Then tonight, the topic came up again and Mr. Pancakes informed me he wanted to start the business now rather than later. He had thought about the finances and one of the caveats was that provided he had a certain amount of customers per day, he would be able to make the rent and everything else in between.
Which sounded farfetched to me so i countered back with my WHAT IFs…what if we don’t get enough people coming into the store and what if we could make other house-related payments because we had to pay rent on the store? What if there were other risks we couldn’t see? and What happened to being DEBT-FREE?!!
Of course as soon as i said this, i could tell that he had shut down to some degree. I wanted to discuss it more but he didn’t because as he put it “i can’t make willy nilly decisions anymore, i am almost a married man now!” Which is true but then i also do not want to be a DREAM-KILLER because i do believe in Mr. Pancakes and all the business plans and i do want us to become business owners! However i want us to start this business with little risk as possible. I know in business there are always risks but if we can limit the risks to a minimal, in my mind that would be ideally the right way to go.
I want more than anything for Mr. Pancakes and i to start our marriage and famil life of well with as little risks as possible. I want us to have a plan for everything including starting our business and as much as i don’t want him to think i am a kill-joy, i feel as if i have to stand up for what i feel is right for our family!