Toddler Life: In Defense of Blue Ivy

So as a mother of a toddler whose hair is “wild” per Society standards, i needed to write this post to defend Blue Ivy and her lovely locks.  Her hair is beautiful regardless of what others may say (ie: Karruche Tran and countless others–have several several seats).  It’s bullying when you say negative things about people.  It’s even more offensive when you say mean things about young innocent children.

Now i know why Sesame Street had one of their characters singing about “loving my hair” because others/Society will always make you feel less than…especially if you do not conform to the “standards of society.”  Our children have to go through enough and as a parent of a black child, there are enough societal pressures that i have to ward my child against that i don’t want the focus of my child’s hair being one more thing.

I know how it is to chase my almost two year old around the house just to comb his hair.  When he was a baby, it was easy because his curls were much more softer but as he has gotten older, his hair is full and in it’s natural curled up state so putting products in and combing through it has become extremely difficult.  And realistically speaking, what average two year-old will sit down calmly to get his hair oiled and combed? I don’t know many of those toddlers.

Getting his hair washed is struggle enough.  Oiling his hair is a challenge.  Putting a comb through his hair is a battle/world war 3 every single time.  Therefore, most times, i wash, oil and finger comb as we go through our day.  He is less frustrated and i am less frustrated because i am not chasing him all over the place.   And i mean, he is sprinting and i am trying to grab.  It’s a terrible struggle for both of us.   Also, some children just have tender scalps and putting a comb through is down right painful and cruel.  No one likes to see their child cry for something we have control over.

My son’s hair will never be silky smooth because IT’S NOT MEANT TO BE.  His hair is in it’s natural state of tight and full curls.  He is a child.  He is a boy.  His hair doesn’t define him but it’s a part of who he is.  I am not going to cut his hair because Society says little black boys shouldn’t have a head full of hair.  Or that braiding or combing your child’s hair means your child is “well groomed” and “taken care of”.

Like my son, Blue Ivy is well taken care of.  They both have the best of everything (according to their parent’s means of course); they are happy children who are smart and social and love to dance and sing.  Their hair does not make them who they are.  It’s an extension of who they are.

Please leave Blue Ivy and her parents alone.  She is beautiful, whether her hair is combed or not.  Whether it’s braided or pulled up.  Maybe…like me, her parents like the way her hair is…in it’s natural state.

As a society, we need to allow people to live their lives especially if it’s not a hindrance or danger to themselves or others.  If you don’t like the way someone’s hair is (Karrueche Tran and others—get a life and several seats), then don’t look at them.  Turn and look away.  Additionally, her parents are photographed at all time and hours of the day and night…going from one location to the next…if we followed most people around all day…we would see plenty of people’s hair/face a hot mess.

Anyway…it just saddens me when i hear grown ass people making fun of innocent children.

Blue Ivy…you are beautiful exactly the way you are!!

Question of the Day: Any thoughts on this topic?



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7 Responses to Toddler Life: In Defense of Blue Ivy

  1. Tyshia says:

    Love this! I was beyond irritated yesterday at the comments and everything else about a child’s hair. Ridiculous. My almost two year old is the same way. A tight curly fro is his hair naturally and I have no intentions of trying to make it any other way. Society is crazy. So caught up in what the next person is doing. Raise your children the way you see fit, I’ll raise mines that way I do. And again, this is a CHILD we are talking about. A shame.

  2. Blue Ivy’s hair has become a “thing”…lol society is funny. Of all things left to talk about it’s a baby’s hair. I havent heard of this topic but to me a child’s hair doesnt need to be “stylish”, it just need to be well kept and neat.

  3. jj says:

    AMEN to this! My daughter is of mixed race and her hair gets unruly within hours of it being done. No doubt folks think I am a bad mom cause I can’t take care of it but I count the fact that she is healthy and happy as a huge plus in my column. It is HARD to get a toddler to sit down long enough to get their hair done and then getting them to sit still again for maintenance? That’s a chore and not everyone has the time or energy. Even if I did, I’d rather spend my time doing something more fun with my daughter.
    Folks need to give up with this foolishness. Blue Ivy is BEAUTIFUL and I love her hair! It is a reminder that she is still A KID!!!

  4. Remember all the talk about Gabby and her hair at the Olympics? People just need to stop. BTW-She is so cute. These are the first pics I’ve seen of her. She looks just like her mom.

  5. Pegster says:

    What a great post. We have become such a judgmental society it is insane. We judge people for everything and anything under the sun. I couldn’t even believe that people made fun of a 2 year old for her hair. This world I tell you. Good on you for defending her, someone needs to do it :).

  6. From Mrs to Mom says:

    Karreche was reading from a TelePrompTer. I don’t think that was necessarily her view of Blue’s hair.

    While I don’t disagree with you, I do think it’s ok to comb children’s hair. There’s a difference between hair in its natural state and unkempt grooming. That being said, my son is the King of unruly hair and there are days he walks out of the house with his hair the way he rolled out of bed. But it’s not going down like that every day.

    • i meant to do a re-write when i saw that Karreche was reading from a teleprompter…even still though she and BET could have censored themselves but sensationalism sells.