The Relationship of Bloggers

The thing with blogging is that you become attached to people and their lives and stories.  And when they are no longer blogging…it feels like you’ve lost something.

Am i being a bit dramatic? And or stalkerish?

Since i have been blogging, which hasn’t been that long with all things considered, there have been many bloggers that i read that have closed shop for various reasons.  And although it’s a natural process for bloggers to move on beyond blogging (because life DOES exist outside of blogland), it’s still a little sad to see people no longer blogging.

Some blogs have definitely become a daily read and if I don’t always comment, I do enjoy just reading to catch up on fashion advice, funny things kids said and did and or just to hear something funny, encouraging and or heart warming.  People are living such incredible lives and filled with such great information and it’s awesome to just learn.

And then of course some people share beautiful images and it takes your breathe away every day.  There are so many talented folks out there.  And then recently I have discovered a group of fitness bloggers including runners and cross fitters and it’s just so inspiring.  I am really inspired everyday.

And then of course there are those bloggers you become friends with in real life.  And it’s like you were always meant to be friends.

Recently, I reached out to a blogger who had stopped blogging just to check in.  And i have done this before on several occasions.  I always have a genuine concern if a blogger (I read daily) goes missing for a period of time.   And I don’t think that’s stalkerish at all.

When we choose to share our lives with random people who then become friends (even if it’s just on social media and blogland), we build relationships.  And we begin to care about each other.  And to the outside world, that may be creepy and weird.  But I think anyone that blogs will agree with me that relationships established in blogland is real.

Therefore, if someone doesn’t blog for a while, it’s alright for me to be concern.  And if a blogger is no longer blogging and shuts down their blog…it’s ok for me to feel a little sad.  None of these emotions are debilitating but it’s still real and perfectly acceptable.

Question of the Day: How do you respond when favorite bloggers stop blogging?


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23 Responses to The Relationship of Bloggers

  1. Lol…I definitely remember this feeling! I felt it long ago, a lot of times when I ran my personal blog. A lot of my friends today I met through their blogs so I definitely know how you feel. No, it is not stalkerish at all 🙂

  2. I’ve felt sad when a blogger stopped blogging too. I guess it’s just natural. You don’t know them but somehow through blogs they become a part of your life. Im always talking about this blogger or that blogger to my family and friends. They probably think I”m crazy!

  3. Lauren says:

    I definitely feel this way when one of my favorite bloggers just drops off…I know they don’t owe me anything, but I always appreciate it when a regular blogger posts that they will be taking a break or shutting down the blog all together–at least then I know that something serious didn’t happen.

  4. I haven’t experienced a friend quitting blogging yet but it would be quite traumatic! If that happened, we’d have to try to get together in real life. 🙂

  5. Heather says:

    I can definitely relate to this, as some of the friends I’ve made blogging have recently closed shop. I myself have had to scale back a bit, too, simply because I’ve had so many things going on. But like you, I have made some great friends through blogging, and it’s always sad when they aren’t there anymore.

  6. jj says:

    I agree with you. I often feel the same way but I understand that life happens. I feel disappointed but try to remind myself that perhaps they just haven’t had any time to blog and their focus is somewhere else.

  7. Quiana says:

    I used to get frustrated when bloggers stopped writing I guess because I feel like how you explained that they put themselves out there and established a rapport with their audiences only to leave them high and dry. This is especially in the case for those who leave with no mention of taking a hiatus. I think it’s totally find to stop/take breaks and simply say, “life’s happening, be back soon,” ya know? Now I just give bloggers the benefit of the doubt when this happens that perhaps their dealing with something non-share worthy that’s super personal and they just need to sort it out. Nothing personal, right?

  8. Silvergirl says:

    I have been blogging about 3 years as well and have had some great blog friends come and go.
    It is always sad for me when a blogger friend stops blogging for whatever reason.
    It really is like you a friend moved away.

  9. Oh, I do the exact same thing. I get a bit sad and then I reach out to them. Quite often. LOL.

  10. Kita says:

    I am saddened one of my favorite blogs just closed up shop the other day with their last post and I was saddened but I know that they are okay just taking some time to live beyond the computer. She is the only recent one that I know of that stopped blogging. Others that have stopped are always on FB or on twitter so I can keep up with them there.

  11. Tamara says:

    Not at all stalkerish! Now I connect with people but I used to be a lurker back in my 20’s when people were just starting to be bloggers. Remember livejournal?? I’d get crushed when they’d reel it in, or skip months, or just stop writing altogether. It was like a soap opera or something.
    Now that I’m a blogger myself, I’d probably reach out. It happened once and I missed her words greatly.

  12. Faith says:

    I feel the exact same way! I get really sad when a favorite blogger of mine stops. It’s like not bring able to read the end of a book or something.

    I want all of them to be blogging until they are old and grey! 🙂

  13. Allie says:

    Not stalkerish – more like human-ish! I can definitely relate…

  14. toi says:

    i feel so sad when my favorite bloggers stop writing because I feel as if I’ve lost a friend