The Post That Reflects on Jealousy

I think sometimes reading blogs and being in blogland can make you a jealous person.  Actually, let me go back…and say sometimes being a human being in the real world can make you a jealous person.  And jealousy is such an ugly term but an even uglier existence.

By no means am i a jealous person but sometimes…just sometimes, i find myself wanting things that other people may have.  According to Webster’s dictionary…jealous is defined as the following:

  • intolerant of rivalry or unfaithfulness
  • disposed to suspect rivalry or unfaithfulness
  • hostile toward a rival or one believed to enjoy an advantage
  • vigilant in guarding a possession

According to Webster…none of definitions are positive.  And as a Christian, the bible is very specific about being a jealous person.  After all in Exodus 20:17, we are reminded: “You shall not covet your neighbor’s house; you shall not covet your neighbor’s wife, or his male servant, or his female servant, or his ox, or his donkey, or anything that is your neighbor’s.”  And in James 3:16:  “For where jealousy and selfish ambition exist, there will be disorder and every vile practice”.  God’s thoughts on jealousy and a jealous person are very clear.

And yet sometimes, i covet other’s people’s possessions.  Their house, Their car.  Their shoes.  Their purse.  In blogland…their followers, # of comments, their connections, etc.  In twitter world: their followers.  On facebook: the amount of likes.  The things we covet are plenty.  And it’s not surprising that most of the things i find myself wanting and being jealous of are all of material things.  Which is so superficial.  Am i superficial?

Why can’t i covet the things which are more substantial…like a person’s love for God, willingness to make sacrifices, love of hard work and dedication to their craft? Which i don’t even think it’s right to covet these things but at least…it’s not materialistic.

This post was to remind myself that being a jealous person is futile.  It stunts my personal and professional and spiritual growth.  It is self defeating and self serving.  It belittles my talents and gifts and abilities.  It blocks my blessings from flowing.

I am reminded that when i am focused on someone else’s possessions and things…i am NOT tending to my own affairs and nurturing the good things i have in my life.  My grass is only going to get greener if i am tending to it and taking care of it.  I am only going to be blessed if i am blessing others.  I am only going to be fulfilled if i am fulfilling!

A jealous person is an ugly person.  An ugly person is a jealous person.  And i want to be that person that is not jealous in any area of my life.

Question of the Day: What do you find yourself coveting sometimes?

Jealousy

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17 Responses to The Post That Reflects on Jealousy

  1. Great post! That quote and the end is on point. Soon we’ll stop getting the blessing we have if we spend all our time looking at someone else’s.

  2. Kita says:

    I tend to not be a jealous person because the same things you got I can get it may take me longer but I can get it. I may have to go about it differently than you but its still achievable. Great post looking into jealously

  3. jj says:

    Great post! O agree 100%. It is human nature I think but being a Christian, we are supposed to overcome this.
    We just moved and I love our new home but I sometimes find myself wishing we got a different elevation like so and so down the street or that we had a nicer car like so and so down the street. But then I am reminded that 1. I don’t know the state of their finances (they might be robbing Peter to pay Paul) and 2. Who knows what battles (physical, emotional or spiritual) they fought or are still fighting to get here?
    Then I remember a song my mom always sings. It goes like this:
    Count my blessings, name them one by one
    Count your blessings, see what God has done
    Count your blessings, name them one by one
    And it will surprise you what the Lord has done!

  4. It happens to the best of us. You are not the only one who has been swept with these ugly feelings. I think it has more to do with us then it has to do with the other person. We have to find the contentment within ourselves for what we have and channel jealousy into trying to get whatever else it is we want.

  5. Lashawn says:

    I think it’s normal to occasionally see something someone else has and want it for yourself. But you can’t let your life be ruled by that. I also think that when you learn to be happy with what YOU have, life becomes easier. You covet what others have less and less.

  6. I don’t know if I’d consider myself a jealous person. I think growing up in a single parent household, I learned early on in my childhood that coveting material things that others have only leads to heartbreak, headaches and stress. That helped me to realize that it’s okay to want to things, but I reign myself back in from obsessing over wanting them to the point of jealousy.

    However, I think the best way to get the things you really desire is to put out their into the universe. Name it, claim it and speak it into existence. Also, don’t be afraid to ask for a little help. I admire those bloggers who want to do certain things or go to events and they have the courage to put their dreams out there and ask for help from sponsors and their supporters.

    We can’t do everything on our own. I think we focus so much on being a blessing to others that we forget to allow others to be a blessing to us. Ask not, want not.

    • I think obsessing over things is so unhealthy…jealousy in general is unhealthy! Thanks for pointing that out because it definitely impacts our physical as well as emotional health in negative ways!!

  7. It’s totally normal, not matter how much we want to be above it all. We’re human. I find myself wanting things that others have. I always remind myself that I don’t know what they went through to get it or what they’re going through to keep it. It’s best to stay in my lane and know that what God has for me is just that – for me.

  8. I am not a jealous person, but I can so relate to this post. I find myself coveting a lot of the things you mention. It’s more of a “Wow, I wish I had that” rather than being pissed off that the person has it. I always say to myself/ “I’m next!” It helps to remember that just because others are already where you want to be does not mean that you wont get there too.

  9. Law_Fal says:

    I feel envious seeing everyone seemingly moving forward in life with marriage and having children and I wonder why I have not moved on to that next step in life. Then I have to remind myself that I’m not on anyone else’s time line or schedule and that I need to be patient & everything that is meant for me will be mine in due time. Great post!