In the end we decided to stay out East and not move to the South…even though we had many dreams of a big house with a big yard and really really inexpensive mortgage. We decided to stay in our current neck of the country in the end because family matters.
We would have had friends in the South who would have embraced us and made us part of their family…because we already think of them as family. However, our family that we live near also wanted us to remain in the area. And without our knowing…there were many prayers being sent up for us to remain. And it was out of the blue that we made the decision to stay in the area and purchase a home.
Baby Pancakes is super in love with my FIL. Everyday and all day it’s about “Pa!!” And my FIL is one of those men that most people have to warm up to. So the fact that Baby Pancakes and him are so enamored with each other is one of the sweetest things. And to separate them by miles and miles would have been a travesty.
Another reason we made the decision to stay was because my mother also lives close by and although she was always asking “why do you need to move south?”. She was always praying for us to remain close to her.
Another very important reason we had to remain in the area is because of our Church grandmother. She is 98 years-old and although we are not blood family, we are her family. And we couldn’t even bring ourselves to tell her we were thinking about moving….because she would have lost it. I am glad we will be around so that we can continue to be there for her.
Our church family…they are just the best. And one of the things we were not sure how we would replace was our church and the families and friendships we have made over the years. I want to see Baby Pancakes grow up and get married in our church someday.
Another reason we stayed was because my best friend, my godson and my family enjoyed a wonderful summer vacation together. And i saw our two boys and how they played together…and the love and joy my son felt toward his god-brother and it made me feel selfish to separate the two. They are family and i want to see both of them growing up together. Just like i want to see myself growing old around my best friend.
In the end…we decided to remain where we are because family matters!
Question of the Day: Have you ever made a decision based solely on family?