This post is about Baby Pancakes who i am going to begin referring to as Boy Pancakes because goodness knows he is no longer my baby. He is growing up too soon. The other day he was laying in my bed and i caught my breathe at how tall he was. And the words coming out of his mouth are that of a grown man. Anyway onto today’s post…
I couldn’t wait until Boy Pancakes started daycare, i thought it would be the best thing for him socially. Academically we have been doing a great job teaching him his alphabets, numbers (1-30), colors and shapes and he was potty-trained. Of course he was seeking friends and social groups because he would start saying “I wanna go to school.” Especially since he would see other kids in the neighborhood going to school. We like to say Boy Pancakes transitioned himself to daycare. The boy was too darn social. We talked about it and felt like we could no longer deny our son the ability to social (obviously it was me pushing for my son to increase his socialization skills–they weren’t terrible but i wanted him to make friends outside of his immediate family). Essentially Boy Pancakes had all the ingredients to be a successful student at school.
Of course he has excelled at adapting to a long day at daycare. Initially we were more scared to leave him alone with other people than he was about staying. He immediately took a liking to his teachers and classmates. He would come home and tell me all the names of his teachers and classmates. One of his teachers, Ms. Alexis, would tell me “Boy Pancakes is the only one that actually calls me by my full name.” He was chosen as the artist of the week. All in all, we were loving our little guy’s adjustment to his first organized institution because goodness knows there would be more.
What i forgot to anticipate is all the BAD habits he would pick up as a result of socializing with being. Goodness knows there are MANY BAD HABITS he is picking up. My good mannered little boy has turned into a growling “i am not your friend” pouting, crossing arms on his chest little human that sometimes leaves us scratching our heads.
We had to talk to his teachers because he uttered a few choice words (f-word) and poo-poo head (which is more age-appropriate i think). The f-word totally took me by surprise…we’ve said that word but never in front of him. After speaking with his teacher, we found out one of the kids had been saying it and they already had a talk with his parents. After a few days and us not freaking out every time he said it, he stopped saying it. Which is much better than “what the heck.” At this stage, he truly is a sponge and sucks up the good, bad and ugly things all around him.
Of course at home, we are trying our hardest to give him nothing but good because the world (outside our home) is so filled with ugly things. Goodness knows not everyone’s house is filled with good. All in all, we are taking the good with the bad and ugly because Boy Pancakes is thriving.
Here’s why he is thriving (the silver lining)–with the bad and ugly, we have an opportunity as parents to teach him from the rights and wrongs of the world. We have an opportunity (with patience) to teach him our values and beliefs. To help shape him into the very strong and independent boy he is becoming. This stage is when parenting becomes real and tangible and we accept the challenge and are ready to succeed. After all, he has so many years to socialize with his peers and goodness knows how many more things he is going to pick up.
And if daycare allows us to be the parents we want to be to our little boy then that’s not annoying at all!