Happy Thursday Friends! One more day until Friday…hang in there because i know i am!
I found something the other day when I was going over my blog a few days ago. I came across this letter i wrote to myself well over three years ago before Baby Pancakes was born and wanted to reflect on some of the things i wrote and encouraged myself. Additionally, as a very soon-to-be mother to 2…i need to remember all the things i wrote.
Dear My Future Self As Mom,
I thought it would be fun to write this letter to you since you are currently with child.
Plus, it will be nice to read this when the little one is finally here and things get hectic. (it sure did come in handy when things became hectic).
It will be important to remind yourself of a few things about being a mom,
motherhood and the beautiful decision that you and Mr. Pancakes have made.Know that your body has changed and will continue to change. (my body did change!)
When your body changes, remember that’s part of the process of motherhood.
Embrace it and work to strengthen it at the gym and with what you eat. (this took me awhile to do but i am so hoping that with second baby #2…i actually have to follow thru with this).
Don’t beat up yourself because your body changed! (for the most part…i tried not to although it was difficult).
Remember you are human and you will make mistakes. (and i did…accidentally locking my 4-month old son in a car for well over an hour…so scary–will never make that mistake again).
You may not know right away what his cries all mean BUT eventually you will learn and understand them all within two seconds of it starting. (and i didn’t but i figured it out eventually).
Know that your grandma, mom, sisters and most of the mothers you know all did it and continue to do it with all the challenges motherhood comes with. (sometimes i think i was all alone but i managed to remember this).
Remember your mom gave birth to you naturally at home. And to your siblings..she did it five times. Get strength from that knowledge.(and i did manage to experience natural child birth).
Know you will feel overwhelmed with all the responsibilities of motherhood.(and i did!)
And that you will get weary sometimes because of the pressures of all your roles: wife, mother, daughter, friend, employee and woman. (and it did).
But you are NEVER alone in these roles because you have the support of the best partner there ever was.
Mr. Pancakes will be there always…you just have to ask.(Mr. Pancakes was absolutely amazing with how supportive he was to me).
And above all, say a prayer always asking God for guidance and direction in all you do. (i had never been closer to God).
And while you are praying…you are modeling for Baby Pancakes the significance of depending on God always.
Don’t get too freaked out if your son decides to play football and gets tackled or tackles people.(this made me laugh out loud because currently Baby Pancakes is in LOVE with football and tackles people All. The. Time. and say things like “mommy can we watch football on FOX”).
Or at the playground if he climbs high things and jumps off screaming, remember these are regular everyday boy behaviours…don’t stifle his need or sense for adventure.(i am still working on this…it’s so difficult but i do want him to be adventurous and he jumps and jumps and jumps…that may never change).
Remember not to control the situation when it comes to mothering…Mr. Pancakes should do some fathering too! (and he continues to be an amazing partner in this parenting adventure…i am so blessed!)
Remember NOT to compare yourself to other mothers and or your child to someone else’s child.(i am also working on this).
Know that you are your own person and so is Baby Pancakes! (Baby Pancakes definitely has his own personality).
And if you feel like staying home and raising your child (instead of working) that does not make you weak…it just means you are normal and want to experience everything firsts with your baby.(and i LOVED staying home for three months but truly i was never meant to be a stay-at-home mother ALTHOUGH now i really wish i could stay home with two babies).
Know it’s alright to want to nurture and nourish your baby….But it’s also important to nurture and nourish yourself.(and i did need to do more nourishing myself).Remember to savour the beautiful moments of quiet times with your baby.(GOSH i did…and loved every moment and i cannot wait to experience those moments again!)
Hold his little hands, kiss his beautiful cheeks, stare and get lost in his eyes! (and YES i did).
Sing him songs and don’t be shy of getting silly with him.(funny thing is…as bad as my voice is, he LOVES to hear me sing to him and with him and that hasn’t changed).
Take pictures, lots of lots of pictures and videos because they grow up so fast! (i definitely too so many pictures and i finally organized his first year…but i still have two years to put together).
Tell him you love him everyday…and give long and sweet hugs! (i did and i still do…he is such a loving child).
And above all else…live, love & laugh always because motherhood only gets better with time! (and this statement is so true and i am learning to live, love and laugh…i am learning so much about myself as a woman and mother. And i know it’s only going to be an even more amazing experience as a mother of two!)
Love Always, Future-Mama-To-Be Pancakes!!