I don’t have a girl yet but working within a school…there is so much girl on girl drama that occurs. I don’t remember this being the case when i was in high school. I remember getting along with all the girls, from the drama club to the cheerleading squad. I was a social butterfly and don’t ever remember being in the middle of any girl drama. I don’t even remember getting into a verbal fight let alone a physical one.
But nowadays girls are fighting and trying to kill each other.
Googling girl fights and i get a website and facebook account for Crazy Girl Fights and The Best Girl Fights. When did this begin to happen. That our girls…young girls are fighting each other over silly things like boys, clothes, hair, jealousy, miscommunication. Things that are so avoidable.
I am scared for girls today. The peer pressure to fit in. To become someone that they are NOT. By having to fight to prove that you are “down.” The cliques are getting worse and worse. Mean Girls are real. And we see this personified in shows like the Bad Girls Club, Basketball Wives, Housewives of Choose a City. Young girls who fight become adult women who fight.
Of course i do think with early intervention…a girl can develop the self-esteem and self-worth they need to feel good about who they are. Having a positive concept is so important because then as a young girl, you don’t have to prove yourself.
I see girls on a daily basis dressed up in brand named clothes, nails and hair and face done. And although their exterior looks polish….the interior is tainted and scarred. I don’t have a girl child yet but if i did…i would tell them to be who they are no matter the circumstance. This is of course easier than said.
But we really need to work on developing the self-esteem of our girls. We need to fill our girls with positivity and power bigger than any clique, mean girl, bully, etc.
When my niece was younger…i would tell her everyday she was beautiful and strong and smart. And as she has grown up, she is beautiful, strong and smart. Ask her and she will tell who she is. And that’s something that will stay with her for the rest of her life. Building up our girls self-esteem is one way to raise girls that are responsible and caring and loving to herself and others.
Question of the Day: What are you saying to young girls in your life?