My husband and I have been married for 368 days (as of November 17, 11).
Our wedding was the big party we had hoped it would be and we both loved every minute.
However, we got married on a Friday and were both back at work that following Monday.
I was busy working full-time and going to school part-time,
while my husband was just about to start a part-time seasonal position (along with his full-time job).
So a honeymoon right away was out of the question.
Right after we got married everyone asked me whether or not I felt different.
It is true that I felt as if I was a member of his family in a way I never did before.
However, nothing seemed different in our relationship.
We had already been living together, and besides opening a joint savings account everything seemed the same. The first six months of our marriage flew
as I finished up school and we moved into a nicer apartment.
Every day I consider myself lucky to have found my husband.
I know that in our future we will face both joys and struggles,
but what matters to me is that we face them together.
Being married also changes the way you think. It is no longer just what I want or just “my” future.
Instead, when I think about my future career I now think about how my plans will work with his plans.
My husband does the same thing. We make decisions about our future together.
I imagine that this will only get more complicated when we start a family.
The truth is things do change when you get married.
It just took me some time to figure it out.
With every day and every trial our relationship gets stronger.
I know I am constantly learning how to be in our marriage.
We are both independent and strong-minded people
and so it sometimes takes us a while to figure things out.
In fact, I’ve found compromise to be the most difficult thing about marriage,
but it also yields the greatest joys.
Thank you Asgreen for your reflections.
I do agree that things do change when we get married
but the best change is getting to spend the rest of our days enjoying the company of our love!
Question of the Day:
What’s the one question people would ask you during the first year of marriage?
What’s the one question you ask people who just got married?